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2 February 2012 - 11:17pm

What have you loaned and never received back?

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I have loaned money to someone and never received it back. I've loaned books to people and never received them back.

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3 February 2012 - 6:30am
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Books is the first thing that comes to mind. I loaned a few to someone who was supposed to mail them back to me, and I never saw them again. I started putting my name on them and also writing down to remind myself where the book went, although that was a long time ago now.

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Books is the first thing that comes to mind. I loaned a few to someone who was supposed to mail them back to me, and I never saw them again. I started putting my name on them and also writing down to remind myself where the book went, although that was a long time ago now.

I did the same thing! I wrote my name inside, thinking surely when they see my name, they will return the book. I even asked for the book back. It was new and I take very good care of my books. I had a list to of who I lent stuff out too. Grrrrrrr

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3 February 2012 - 11:42am
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I lent out some good paintbrushes (expensive) to a girlfriend. I told her they were expensive and instructed her on how to clean them. I even gave her some new paint that I wasn't going to use. I never saw them again! I guess there is something to the saying "never a borrower or lender be".

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3 February 2012 - 11:45am
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That reminds me! I lent out a like new highchair and never got it back. I lent out my maid of honor dress and never got it back! I lent out a child carrier for a bike and never got it back! 😠 That was so many years ago. I really need to let it go. 😉 I guess never lend anything out if you want it back. When someone asks if they can borrow something, they really mean "may I have this". 😂

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4 February 2012 - 3:16am
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My goodness, it sounds like you were generous and people took advantage of your generosity. People like that are so ungrateful and have no common courtesy at all! 😢

I am sure there are some other items I am not remembering, but books was a big one for me, because I always tried to share.

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4 February 2012 - 5:35am
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well that would be just so much that I can't even tell.. money yes a big part.. but thats how it goes when you are to kind 😕 Actually I dont know If its fair to count money given to family members..? Even if they do add up to many 1000.. Being the one in my family that makes most money it seems to be my destiny to help the rest of em out.. Anyways.. Money is just money.. you make em and spend em.. sometimes even on things that you really dont need but just think is fun.. like Online Casino games and In my case those fun fun fun SLOT games 🙂

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4 February 2012 - 5:58am
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well that would be just so much that I can't even tell.. money yes a big part.. but thats how it goes when you are to kind 😕 Actually I dont know If its fair to count money given to family members..? Even if they do add up to many 1000.. Being the one in my family that makes most money it seems to be my destiny to help the rest of em out.. Anyways.. Money is just money.. you make em and spend em.. sometimes even on things that you really dont need but just think is fun.. like Online Casino games and In my case those fun fun fun SLOT games 🙂

LOL, you have a good attitude, Mr. Bingo. That is kind-hearted of you to help your family. Not all family members, who have money, are like that. I remember when one of my close friends and her siblings were each given 3 grand by their father. My friend turned around and gave her gift to her sister, because "she needed it more than we did." I thought that was so generous of my friend, who did not want to see her sister struggle, as she already felt blessed by having everything they needed.

I have loaned money that I have never received back, but I cannot think of any large amounts. Sometimes it did bother me, though, because even with the smaller amounts it was just the idea of the person not caring enough to try to pay it back or to even bring it up. I have forgive a few small loans, too, and in one case I did so, because I knew I would never see it anyway, and I wanted no hard feelings between me and that person, lol!

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Im no Jesus, absolutly not but I do think that Money is something that you should use and not something to put in the pillow.. haha My mother who used to work as a home-nurse or what you would call it..

any way she told me once about what happend when they were cleaning out a house to an old lady who everybody thougt must have been very poor.. just eating cheap fish and porrige all her life.. Well it turned out that she had saved all her pension in the pillows and her sofa was full with it all.
No one knows why she saved it cus she had no family and left no last will testament after her.. So in the end all those money.. in usd it would be say around 100 grand.. Ended up back in the goverments account. 🙂

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Im no Jesus, absolutly not but I do think that Money is something that you should use and not something to put in the pillow.. haha My mother who used to work as a home-nurse or what you would call it..

any way she told me once about what happend when they were cleaning out a house to an old lady who everybody thougt must have been very poor.. just eating cheap fish and porrige all her life.. Well it turned out that she had saved all her pension in the pillows and her sofa was full with it all.
No one knows why she saved it cus she had no family and left no last will testament after her.. So in the end all those money.. in usd it would be say around 100 grand.. Ended up back in the goverments account. 🙂

Oh....OUCH! Just using the greens for cushion stuffing? Too bad she didn't at least designate that it go to worthy cause! Yikes!

That reminds me of a radio program where the host asked people to call in to tell stories about people who did not believe in using banks or if they did not believe in using banks. You would NOT believe the number of people who called in to say where either they or someone they knew kept their money that was not in the bank! Safes in the homes, under the mattress, buried in the yard, coffee cans, and the freezer among others! I would think a few people would do that, but they had many callers.

My mom has a friend who keeps her money in a CHEST! Like a hope chest, I think. I told mom to not tell that to too many people, lol, as this woman lives alone in an apartment. I guess when her second husband died, his children came in and carried out their portion, because he kept his money in the chest, too! Unbelievable!

I don't really blame anyone for not trusting the banks, though. Many people who hid money like that lived through the depression or heard stories of the Great Depression, and they never got over that fear.

Great story, MB! 🙂

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4 February 2012 - 12:51pm
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haha, yeah hard to belive sometimes what pep can do with these green things (well In Norway, they are red, blue, green and purple to be honest).. 😜

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I would love purple money! That is my favorite color. There are some people who mistake kindness for being stupid.
The money I loaned went for a good cause. I think what bothered me is that the person didn't try to pay it back. I probably would have said just keep it, anyway. I think it's the feeling of being taken for granted is what I don't like. My saying is "once burnt, twice shy".

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hehe well Purple Money is the 1000kroner wich is about 170usd bill so Yes, its my favourite also 😜

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hehe well Purple Money is the 1000kroner wich is about 170usd bill so Yes, its my favourite also 😜

I like hearing info like this. I know very little about Norway. I want some purple kroners. 🙂 What is your smallest bill and what color is it?

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It is the 50 kroner and its green.. value around 8 usd..
The bills comes in these values:
50kr Green ( ab 8,5 usd)
100kr Red (ab 17usd)
200kr Blue (ab 34usd)
500kr Brown/ a bit yello (ab 85usd)
1000kr Purple (ab 170 usd)

Here is a pic I took from http://www.uib.no/education/practical-information/finances

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Thanks for taking the time to upload the info mrbingo. Also on that site...

There are no tuition fees charged at the University of Bergen. This applies to both Norwegian and international students.

Amazing, no tuition fees!

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It is the 50 kroner and its green.. value around 8 usd..
The bills comes in these values:
50kr Green ( ab 8,5 usd)
100kr Red (ab 17usd)
200kr Blue (ab 34usd)
500kr Brown/ a bit yello (ab 85usd)
1000kr Purple (ab 170 usd)

Here is a pic I took from http://www.uib.no/education/practical-information/finances

CL has broadened my horizens. I have to stop putting everything in relation to how it is in the U.S. You do have a much more colorful array of monies. 😉 Thanks for posting the pic.

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Thanks for taking the time to upload the info mrbingo. Also on that site...

There are no tuition fees charged at the University of Bergen. This applies to both Norwegian and international students.

Amazing, no tuition fees!

Yes, that makes me sick when I think of all the debt our poor students have, and it is only getting worse for the young people. The great ole U S of A. 🤷

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4 February 2012 - 10:35pm
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A lot of countries have free college education and free health care! Can you imagine? It's not right to die because a person can't afford healthcare. Oh well, that is another thread.

A person tried on a pair of my shoes and never gave them back.....lol. It's kind of funny though. I said something like "try these on and see how comfortable they are". She did and must have thought I meant for her to have them which is ok. haha

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I know. Some pay young mothers to stay home with their children, too. How nice would that be? I had to take care of 10 other children so I could stay home with my three, lol. I really needed more time off after I had my babies, too, but I did not have a choice.

Funny about the shoes. I would be surprised if that happened, lol

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I did the same thing for many years Hope. I had a 6 week old, a 2 yr old, a 5 yr old, a 9 yr old and a 10 year old to take care of. Only two of those were mine. I think children are better adjusted if they get the love and attention they need from their parents, especially if one is home with the child.

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Thanks for taking the time to upload the info mrbingo. Also on that site...

There are no tuition fees charged at the University of Bergen. This applies to both Norwegian and international students.

Amazing, no tuition fees!

hehe, well Im so used to it since I come from a Nordic Country. I had my education, three years of pratical Nursing and EMT licence totally for free. During the time I went to School I actually got around 1000usd/month to cover food and other costs of living. So yes we do have a good system but then you have to remember that the salary in My Home Country Finland for pep in my prof. is only around 2000 usd/month. Thats why I in the end moved to orway (just a small hopp over the Border).. Here I make 3 times as much and have in total 5weeks paid summer holliday + 1,5 week free every 12th week around the year + normal working week hours is only 35.5 here vs 38.75 in Finland. This in total also adds up to 12 extra free days pr year (1 extra per month with the 3,25h less per week tot)..

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but hey you guys.. would you ever accept to pay 36-55% of your income in Tax and then pay another 13-25% tax on things like food and services? Thats the thing with our Nordic systems. Its all more or less paid for by tax money.

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but hey you guys.. would you ever accept to pay 36-55% of your income in Tax and then pay another 13-25% tax on things like food and services? Thats the thing with our Nordic systems. Its all more or less paid for by tax money.

This is so true, and I have heard of this before. Yet it seems that I pay high taxes in my state and for federal, yet receive little to nothing in return, so why not? lol I guess the grass is always greener............

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mrbingo, That is a hard question to answer. Some people here are losing everything they have worked for their entire lives, just because they get ill, and have no insurance. I went to the er a few weeks ago, and my bill was $1700.00. Thank goodness I have insurance. I will end up paying about $50 out of pocket. I am one of the lucky ones.

How is the real estate market where you are? Are houses declining in value?